Category: Transgender

Trans Chasers – Difficulties in the Dating World

Dating for Transgender Individuals

Dating for Transgender Individuals.

It might not be easy for any of us to put ourselves out there and start dating. But for dating for transgender individuals can unearth a whole different set of complications.

One such issue is discussed very openly and honestly in this article by Christin Scarlett Milloy is trans chasers. These are cis-gendered ‘admirers’ who specifically target gender diverse individuals, objectifying them and seeking sex with trans bodies. They don’t see the fascinating complexities, which make transgender individuals who they are. They don’t see them as people who are worth falling in love with. Sadly trans chasers exist. As if dating wasn’t tough enough.

But let’s be clear, this is an insightful piece, not one to vilify all cis-gendered people who may date a transgender individual. There are, thankfully, genuine and good souls out there too.
Milloy explains it eloquently,

Who exactly am I calling out when I use the C-word? I don’t mean cis people who are willing to date a trans person when they meet someone they like, and I don’t mean all trans-attracted people. I’m referring to individuals whose primary motivator in dating is that they really, really, really want to “be with” a trans person, one with original anatomy intact … to the extent that other interpersonal concerns are neglected and ignored. They don’t care to know us very well; they just want to date us. Date us so hard.

While we need to draw the distinction between genuine interest and ‘chasers,’ the last thing we want to do is cultivate a fear of dating. Think of this article is a realistic, practical guide for dealing with those rare people who see a gender diverse identity as an object. Check out the full article here: Trans chasers, exploitive admirers who harass trans people.

Gender Identity

The Transgender Conversation We Had To Have

Talking Gender Identity with Andreja Pejic

International model Andreja Pejic is trailblazer, inspiring countless discussions around gender identity. She was the first model to star in Jean Paul Gaultier’s men’s wear and womenswear shows in Paris. Now she also has a film Andrej (a) documenting her life and transformation into a woman. She’s also a role model for thousands of young people.

That’s where we begin with The Transgender Conversation We Had To Have, an article from The Herald Sun. Discussing Gender Identity with a young Melburnian who has just met Pejic. It’s a great read, and of course our own Anthony Carlino was asked to comment in the article. He describes what it means for a transgender individual to transition.

“Besides getting used to the changes in the body, I think anyone who understands the process
of transition knows that it is a psychological one,” he says.

“With many of my clients this becomes the final stage of self-acceptance, because no matter how many surgeries you have you are never going to be born in the body you truly want, you will never be biologically the sex that you want to be. That can be a real struggle for people to come to acceptance with.”

Carlino says a small number of people have gender reassignment surgery in Australia, but the majority go to Thailand, where it costs between $15,000 and $25,000 for male to female surgery.

“It varies because some girls will go over there and they will want facial feminisation and they will want boobs. It depends how much they want to get done,” he says.

We like the fact the Herald Sun had this conversation. They focused on real life individuals, rather than confining their discussion to theory. The full article is worth a read, take a look at it here.